Offsite retreats seem like a bad idea in general, I've never been to one where I felt the team or company worked together better afterwards, and I've seen some spectacularly bad results... like the time the facilitator tried to get to the bottom of tensions between the CTO and head of sales (the classic problem of "Engineering isn't shipping features fast enough" and "Sales is selling features before even consulting with engineering"). The discussion quickly turned shockingly personal and within a month after the retreat both the CTO and head of sales quit. At least they called an end to the retreat early.
i’ve been to a bunch and all resulted in a big increase in trust between teams especially between tech and sales. i mended a few poor relationships at the last notion one in maui, made some lifelong friends. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ maybe for every shitty one there’s 2 that are great
Sounds like it was productive!
this could pretty much be it's own editorial, if you're feeling journalistic
> Adam Mendler, a workplace expert, told Inc. that this kind of exercise carries real risk when companies invite openness without ever clarifying how that vulnerability will be treated afterward.<p>I always felt that those trust exercises, "bring your whole self to work", "let us pay for a personality test so we can know each other better" are all ruses to find the most gullible people and then take advantage of them or get rid of them.
Probably so, but it was incredibly ill advised of Netflix to <i>admit</i> to this. That’s what I find the most shocking, far more than the firing itself. I cannot fathom how admitting “yeah we fired them for going to therapy” plays to their benefit.
I didn't know Netflix was such a stick-up-the-ass garbage place to work at. What an incredibly dumb thing to fire someone over.
Remember this story the next time someone says "join our mission" or "bring your whole self to work". They all come with asterisks.
" including one incident where Baillie performed a Guinness-related party trick after colleagues asked him to show it off."<p>Is this just splitting the G? If so, it's the most mundane thing in the history of alcohol related party tricks.
> <i>It goes on to say that at the same retreat Baillie drank a Guinness standing on his head, after sharing that he had learned the trick from his former father in law during a conversation inspired by the trust session.</i><p>From another article: <a href="https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/tv/articles/netflix-exec-goes-ballistic-being-010350264.html" rel="nofollow">https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/tv/articles/netflix-exec...</a><p>Honestly, the whole thing seems sort of innocuous. He had some particular medical treatment and then drank a Guinness upside down. Maybe there was something else to it but if you're a big corp then you probably should just give a safe answer.
Mate needs to move down to Australia, he would have been promoted after showing that off.
Yeah you’ll never catch me drinking a Guinness while standing on my head at a company event.<p>Mostly due to a total lack of coordination.
what is splitting the G? I'm not a big drinker
According to ChatGPT it's the skill of taking exactly one sip such that when you put the Guiness glass down the new beer level ends up precisely through the horizontal middle of the "G".<p>According to LadBible the actual trick was drinking a pint of Guinness while standing on his head.<p><a href="https://www.ladbible.com/entertainment/netflix/netflix-executive-job-fired-kevin-baillie-us-981563-20260727?utm_source=chatgpt.com" rel="nofollow">https://www.ladbible.com/entertainment/netflix/netflix-execu...</a>
Nor am I but I found this. <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fL35y1nTkxQ" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fL35y1nTkxQ</a><p>It seems to be a challenge where you drink a specific amount from a pint in one try such that the bottom of the foam splits the Guinness logo. It's not even a huge amount. It seems to less than 20% of the pint eyeballing it.
Source article: <a href="https://nypost.com/2026/07/26/us-news/netflix-exec-goes-ballistic-after-being-fired-for-stunning-trust-exercise-confession-at-retreat-suit/" rel="nofollow">https://nypost.com/2026/07/26/us-news/netflix-exec-goes-ball...</a><p>This is probably the first time I've ever said that a <i>NY Post</i> article was a useful source of information on a story.
Your company, your coworkers, are not your friends. HR is not there for you, it's to protect the company from you. Do not disclose personal information to those who control your livelihood. Once you leave or if you build up a personal relationship with a coworker, outside of work, then maybe. Even still. I will never divulge what I have been through simply because corporate wants to be "inclusive".
As Benjamin Studebaker put it, bring your whole self to work just means the whole self should be professional
Some executives observe religions that abstain from alcohol. They see you with one beer at a company party and judge everything you do on that.
So he was fired for sharing he had ketamine based therapy for depression? Why? Like is it promoting drug use or something?
We can only speculate, but it would not be surprising if someone was hunting for a reason to get rid of them and thought this was a good excuse. Personally, I don’t think this <i>is</i> a good excuse and while we don’t have all the facts, it sounds like Netflix conceding the therapy factored into the dismissal is probably something they will very much regret admitting to on the record.
isn't this highly illegal, since it is used for medical purpose (mental health) ?<p>its like firing a person who was sedated by professional Anesthesiologist with Fentanyl during surgery (A friend of mine had a surgery and was administered fentanyl)
Yes, IANAL but it seems very much like grounds for an open-and-shut wrongful termination suit, given that they have admitted it up front. They could be taken to the cleaners for this.
not that I'm aware of, no. Maybe in some states sure, but not in most.
It’s illegal, that’s all it is I believe.
It's not, although rules vary by state. Medical professionals can prescribe it even though it's a Schedule III drug. I get ads for these presumably legitimate therapy services online all the time on major social networks.
Medical professionals can also use fentanyl among other drugs that aren't legal for recreational use.
should Netflix fire all women on maternity leave, since they most likely were administered fentanyl during delivery ?<p>why isn't Netflix firing anyone who had even a minor surgery or even tooth extraction done, since it most likely involved opioids
It's not illegal if it's through a licensed channel.
Firing someone for taking a prescribed therapeutic medication for a medical condition? Yeah, that’s illegal.
Turns out it was a trust calibrating exercise that the whole team learned from.
Keep work life and personal life separate. No exceptions. If a company tries to encourage you to do otherwise I’d strongly suggest you find a new employer.
So this is where the money from the price increases goes.
The article implies it was from sharing his experience using Ketamine therapy for depression, which likely would have been done with a doctor. Which makes this seem much weirder to my ears.
I'm surprised Netflix doesn't get sued more for their employment practices.<p>They are REALLY happy to fire people.<p>But it seems like they're on record firing someone for a legal medical treatment... in California no less.<p>He was already doing pretty well and will get a decent additional payday out of this.
Don't engage in a parasocial relationship with your employer. They're not your friends.
> <i>They're not your friends</i><p>Your co-workers <i>can</i> be your friends. But we're not obligated to be. If you're my friend and colleague, sure, vent to me. If we're not, I don't give a flyig fuck about your views on geopolitics or gender or whatever, particulalry if you owe me a deliverable, doubly so if you've chosen a hot-button issue nobody actually has any new takes on other than blind agreement or condemnation. (And unless they’re voiced outside work in a way that affects me, I don’t have a right to care about it either.)
I dunno, ketamine treatment for depression isn't that weird.
It always surprises me when people don't understand that the employee-employer relationship is an adversarial one. Unless you're in a democratic co-op or similar your employer is the enemy and you should never forget that. The correct move is to try to screw them in every legal way at every turn because that is what they are doing to you. Never divulge any information that increases your attack surface, always try to extract the most money for the least effort. This is capitalism 101.<p>You must not allow them to fool you into thinking that these aren't the rules they're playing by. David Sirlin's "Playing to Win" is a good treatise on how to be good, and perhaps the most important lesson is to play the game by the rules as written, and not by some other set of rules that exists only in your head.<p>(Though in this case the victim was senior enough that I suspect he was playing the game to the best of his ability, trying to humanize himself to gain the upper hand in some other manipulation game and misplayed, kicking things into the legal arena, as one does)
Kind of crazy Netflix spend so much on engineers while piracy sites give a better UX and more shows for free and with better privacy.
This is why I dislike offsites in general
"It's difficult for me to share this but I care about Netflix, some would say, too much. My mother died recently and rather than go to the funeral I worked through the last season of goop lab because I know the synergy of Netflix and Gwyneth Paltrow will enrich our subscribers lives like nothing before. Thank you for listening but I think I ate some bad fish at the retreat and need to go lie down in my room."
I'm torn here because it does seem like Netflix brought this on themselves. At the same time the litigious nature of American workplaces are part of the reason large corporate environments are so soul-crushing, with language meant to deliberately obfuscate what's actually happening.
“A retreat may feel more relaxed than the office, but it is still a workplace, and the power dynamics don’t disappear,”<p>Ah, so sad :( Another story of a person who believed other people in the workplace too much.<p>These kinds of exercises are unfortunately a waste of time. If you’re honest, you’re walking into a minefield. But if you’re not being open, then no one is really getting to know anyone else in any meaningful way. In the end, a bunch of money and time is spent with zero value gained.<p>And given that this was about someone sharing their experience with a medical procedure to help them process the death of a parent, the company will probably lose the lawsuit, wasting even more money.<p>What a tragic waste of resources. Also, my heart goes out to this person. Loosing a parent is terrible.
So like that interview candidate being asked about the hardest day of their life and answering honestly about a miscarriage or did this guy do something inappropriate with some ping pong balls in a Guinness-record way?
Make shit up. Don't talk about your personal life at a company function, ever.<p>Hell, lie and make an embarrassing but completely legal story. Or something stupid like you were totally embarassed in HS or college.<p>But, never ever share your actual personal lives in a corporate setting. Not one time.
I would strongly discourage anyone from making things up. I have participated in these exercises, and many people simply said, “I really have nothing to share that would interest you.” Those were the people others respected the most.<p>They might share personal things with close friends, but they had a clear definition of what friendship meant.<p>In other words, be a person of character.<p>It is perfectly fine not to be friends with everyone. Just be respectful and honest. Do not lie. Say, “I cannot tell you that because of this or that,” or simply remain silent.
Although it seems like this would be an extreme take to someone who's luckily kept a steady job despite not keeping their personal life out of their work life, I completely agree. It's not worth it.<p>I think everyone gets a pass for something kid related, and to a lesser—probably unequal—extent, something spouse or family related, everything else can and will be used against you unless you're just humming along as the most normal predictable person.<p>As far as people at work are concerned, you've never smoked pot, you're not taikng stimulants even though they're prescribed, you won't even drink coffee after 5pm, and you've definitely never had insomnia.<p>Have one drink with the team if you're inclined to, and then gtfo, go drink with real friends.<p>Managers only care about perception and control, and if anything at all doesn't fit into their directive or world view, it'll go into their mental spreadsheet of blemishes like a vindictive romantic partner next time you fight.<p>"Hey there was a bug last release in some code with your name on it, might be time to go to bed at a reasonable hour!?". Ya thanks, I'll note your advice for next time that happens I'm sure it'll help. Why did you approve the change again?
You can also politely decline to share. You are not obligated to share personal stories to your coworkers and employer for camaraderie’s sake, and they should have no reasonable expectation that you will. Sure, it may be difficult to overcome the peer pressure in the moment, but it is your right, so fight for it.
Google banned political conversations at work. Tech companies are learning from first principles why work/life separation, traditional office culture exist.
It seems the message of schizophrenic corporate America is, "don't bring your humanity to work". Because what is politics but an expression of how society should be. Even more ridiculous is this trust exercise, their idea is for employees to show their human side to improve employee-employee relationships for higher productivity, but wait, not too much of the human side!<p>No wonder all the CEOs are crazy about AI. All the intelligence, none of the human.
At the same time they want to leverage all the "humanity" they can to get you to work more for less.<p>We're a family here, after all. You wouldn't leave your colleagues hanging, would you?
Meh, some people’s politics have very little to do with humanity and how society should be. In general, best approach is to avoid GRAPE topics in general.
Remember why they erased the separation in the first place: to get massive unpaid overtime.
I swear it's the era of chesterton's fence. Boundaries in life, whether personal or professional, are largely protective for everyone. <a href="https://letter.palladiummag.com/p/new-article-how-i-learned-to-stop" rel="nofollow">https://letter.palladiummag.com/p/new-article-how-i-learned-...</a>
It's probably more likely that every era is the era of chesterson's fence.<p>Chesterson, being a good Catholic, probably knew about this adage
Proverbs 22:28 (KJV): "Remove not the ancient landmark, which thy fathers have set."<p>And explained the usefulness of it
I wonder if this is a generational thing. I grew up before social media and have long taken the position that I never post anything to the Internet that I wouldn't want public. I don't have a secret Reddit account or anonymous Twitter profile where I post stuff that could be fired, charged or worse.<p>This goes moreso for work. I assume anything you do can and will be used against you. I have zero trust. You're being a sanitized version of yourself. Do people not know this?<p>It's part of the reason I hate these working bonding activities. Well, that and being neurodivergent. There are fiarly standard questions and I have prepared answers that may or may not be the truth. Just like with interview questions. Sorry, but none of you are my friends or can be trusted. You might be shocked how often confiding in a coworker is used against you.<p>The trick with coworkers is saying just enough so they think they can trust you without saying anything that might get you fired or have other consequences. You can't say nothing. That's almost worse. But you have to basically invent a persona, particularly if you're neurodivergent because the default position of neurotyhpical people is to not like you.<p>And at the end of the day so much of your work life is governed by whether or not people like you. And I hate it.<p>So for a trust exercise, I'd come up with something everybody has likely done or is at least sympathetic to. Like, nothing to do with stealing. That might get you fired. Here's an example: "when I was in high school, I lied to my parents and drove to another state for a party and got drunk with my friends".<p>It's better to base your sanitized answer on the truth but I'm not above wholesale lies. They're just harder to remember so you have to be light on details but not too light.
I am not sure how old he was, but I would guess he was under 40 and relatively inexperienced.<p>Part of the purpose of these exercises is to train management, especially executives, to remain fully focused and make decisions solely on performance and the business, even when someone asks them to show emotion. Anyone who is in executive management position should understand that.<p>He failed the test.